How To Support a Loved One Who is in a Nursing Home

While we all wish our loved ones could spend every day of their lives independent and in the comfort of their own home, this is not always possible depending on the circumstances. Making the decision to place your aging parent or relative into a nursing home can sometimes feel like betrayal; however, in many cases, it is completely necessary and truly understandable.

1. Work to Accept Change

Seeing a loved one enter a nursing home can be a very emotional experience. It is common for one to feel guilty for not being able to offer them the independence they once had. You may feel sad as you watch the toll age is taking on them. You might also feel relieved that you are no longer bearing the burden of being their primary caregiver.

All of these emotions and more are completely normal. Allow yourself time to grieve, be angry, or process any other feelings relating to the change. If you are carrying guilt over their move, allow yourself grace and realize that no one is responsible for the complete care of another human. If you are struggling with accepting the change, consider seeking help from a trained therapist. They can help you process the situation so that you are better equipped to help your loved one.

2. Help With The Transition

While your loved one’s move to a nursing home may be difficult for you to process, it is probably even more so for them. They may feel scared, sad, angry, frustrated, and potentially even defeated by this change. The transition period is the hardest for most seniors as it feels like a complete loss of independence. During this period of time, try to help as much as you can by offering support, patience, and a listening ear.

You can also help as they transition into their new home by providing as much familiarity from their previous life as possible. Put together photo albums with all their favorite photos. Bring the items they treasure the most from their house to the nursing home. While they most likely won’t have space for everything from their old life, you can still help them decorate and make their new room feel more like home.

3. Be A Proactive Part Of Their Lives

Once you have your loved one settled into a nursing home, be sure you strive to continually be a part of their life. Take proactive steps to ensure they do not feel forgotten. If possible, visit at least once a week so they have a friendly face to look forward to. If you are far away, write letters and make phone calls to them frequently- video chatting is also a great option as of recent.

Encourage your loved one to get involved in activities at the nursing home and to make new friends. Frequently check up on them to see how they are feeling and how they are being treated to ensure they are receiving proper care.

Small gifts can go a long way in helping them feel special. Don’t forget important dates, such as birthdays and holidays. By providing continued support for your loved one, you can help them feel like they have retained the best parts of their life.

4. Seek Legal Help When Needed

Nursing homes are often an excellent choice for those who have increased medical needs that cannot be met by family members. During this stage of your loved one’s life, it is important to make sure everything is in order for their end of life care. Don’t hesitate to seek legal help to ensure their assets are protected, their wishes honored, and their medical care amply covered.

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